Why Your Best Superhero Is You
“Life hits you hard. But it takes you three seconds to decide if you are a superhero or not. I am.” Hrithik Roshan
I am firmly of the belief that we live our best life when we are who we are.
Think about it for a moment – are you living for someone else, fitting into what they think is the norm?
If I have learned only one major lesson, it is that no one will ever be 100 percent happy with you, so be who you are and be happy with that.
Like last year, when I went as Supergirl for Halloween. I loved dressing up as a superhero.
What is being a superhero to me? It is standing up for those who can’t do it themselves.
It is advocating for my own health, both physical and emotional. It also means not hiding who I am so that I don’t offend others.
I am a disabled person who does not look that way. I have a traumatic brain injury (TBI) and due to that life has forced me to create ways of coping with my illness.
These systems are in place to play to my strengths. Having a compassionate person in my life to help me with cognitive issues helped me see my own superhero was lurking beneath the surface.
My point is, be who you are no matter what that is.
If you want to be a Princess, go get a tiara. If you are living a life with strong spiritual beliefs, live your truth.
Do these things and own it.
A long time ago, I realized that it made no sense to walk around ashamed of who I was. I am not just the person who wrote this, I am many things.
Most of all, I am a person who cares about others and is not ashamed to admit that life has been tough beyond imagination the past few years.
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Seeing the humor and enjoying life even with hard reality staring you in the face is what got me my wings. Many days I wanted to give up.
I never did, because then all I become is another statistic.
I never wanted my detractors to be right. Pulling myself up from the ashes of being homeless, and suffering a near fatal accident showed me how strong I can be.
It gave me something to give back to others who may not see a way out.
Being my own superhero? Yes. Sign me up.
Danny Brown August 27, 2015 at 9:46 am
Hey there Nancy,
This is right on the money, miss. I remember when I first started blogging, there were various bloggers I wanted to emulate/be like (delete where applicable). And, for a while, I guess I was (inasmuch as copying their publishing schedules, trying to write how they wrote, etc).
But it was a sham.
Because these bloggers haven’t lived my life, and I haven’t lived theirs.
Because these bloggers don’t represent who I want to be – only I can do that.
Once I realized that… The funny thing is, it’s just as true in life as it is online. Want to be someone to look up to? Be that person for your kids, your partner, your friends. Want to create a legacy? Be a good person.
We don’t decide if we’re a superhero or not – but we can do a lot to help others make that decision…
Thanks for the thoughtful post, as usual.
Nancy Davis August 27, 2015 at 9:58 am
You are so right. I was banging my head against the wall trying to make myself into something I wasn’t. I wanted to be accepted, and in that fight, lost who I really was for a little while.
Numbers became more important.
Then, life happened, and I became more interested again in telling the truth no matter who was no longer listening. That was the best thing I ever did for myself. The injury led me back to me. I had to fight to reclaim what got lost trying in vain to please everyone.
Thanks again for the opportunity to post here.
Jack August 28, 2015 at 8:55 am
Hey Nancy, being your own superhero makes perfect sense to me, we have to be our own advocates.
It also helps provide us with the ability to do so for others too.
Nancy Davis August 28, 2015 at 9:15 am
Totally agree Jack. I can’t very well stand up for others if I am unable to do it for myself.
Judy Lee Dunn August 28, 2015 at 4:06 pm
I could relate to this post so much. You have obviously been through a few challenges in your life—and appear to hacve come through them with flying (SuperGirl) colors.
For me, it was a fine line (dysfunctional family, single parenthood, etc.) and a delicate balance between being self-sufficient (“I can do it myself!”) and still being open to those who cared about me enough to want to offer their support.
It was probably the hardest thing to learn. Because with the emotional vulnerability comes possible pain.
I also think it’s very true that until we take care of ourselves, it’s pretty hard to help others. A thought-provoking post.,
Nancy Davis August 28, 2015 at 4:24 pm
I relate so strongly to your comment Judy. I have never been one for needing others or asking for help. Vulnerability? That scared me too much. I was too busy being self-sufficient.
Then my world fell apart and I had to ask for help. Now, I am in a better place and can truly help others.
Thanks for coming along to comment.
Mitch Mitchell August 29, 2015 at 1:17 pm
I like this a lot. I’ve never thought about it as being a superhero, just being who we are and moving on with life. Kind of like what I tell people who are scared to make videos because they think they’ll look weird. I tell them that’s what they look like every day so being in a video won’t change anything.
Nancy Davis August 30, 2015 at 4:13 pm
I appreciate your comment Mitch. A few years ago, I had to do videos for a marketing company that has since gone by the wayside. I looked the same in the videos as I did in real life and it was a great lesson to not worry so much about things such as how I looked or sounded.
I guess this post has been in my head for some time now. I wanted people to see that even living takes more courage than they may realize.